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From: Rosalie B. (no email)
Date: Thu Jun 02 2005 - 09:59:23 EDT
On Wed, 01 Jun 2005 11:47:44 -0000, you wrote:
>--- In , David Straton <dstraton at t dot dot dot >
>wrote:
>> Hi list,
>>
>> My two cents worth,
>Much the biggest issue is THE RELATIONSHIP.
>
>This by far is the best 2 cents!!!
>
In our case, my husband kept mentioning that he wanted to get a boat
and sail to Bermuda and down to the Virgin Islands. He took me on a
crewed charter in the VI (this was after we investigated bare boat and
decided that after we hired a captain etc that a it would be cheaper
just to go with the crew to begin with) to see if I could do it. And
then we started looking at boats. I hadn't really committed to it
before we bought the boat.
It's his boat. I will do certain things - I will help with
commissioning and decommissioning. I will go on cruises of various
lengths up to 6 months. I will take the helm and work the SSB and
other communications devices. I will plot courses and put waypoints
in the GPS.
What I won't do is go offshore for more than a day or two. I'm not
afraid that the boat won't make it. It just doesn't seem like fun to
me.
>My uncle and aunt lived in Venezuela with their 7 children for 9
>years and also summer homes in New Orleans and Cape Cod, Mass.
>Unfortunately his wife and 6 of the 7 children didn't like to sail so
>they would fly via airplane while he and his daughter sailed. She
>never got over her fear yet would go one short day in the bay trips…
>She knew little of the mechanics of the vessel (47'er) and this was
>her biggest fear. If some thing happened to my uncle she wouldn't
>know what to do and didn't want that responsibility. If she learned a
>bit about the vessel she might have learned to trust the boat and
>herself!
>
I trust the boat. I trust my husband. But I'm not physically capable
of sailing the boat by myself, and my husband has already had one
heart attack. So I'm just not going to go to Bermuda or the VI. He
either has to modify his dream, or do it without me.
And I don't think he could do it or really wants to do it without me,
or he would have gone ahead and done it by now. We each have our own
areas of expertise, and he isn't completely cross trained in my area
any more than I can do all the things he does. I am not physically
capable of pulling in the mainsail. He can navigate (he was a Navy
pilot after all), but he prefers to let me lay out the courses for him
and figure out the pros and cons of doing it one way vs the other way.
I respect his desire to sail, even though it really isn't something on
my list of things to do. I like it, but it isn't something that I've
always wanted to do. And he has to respect my limits too.
>Making it a joint adventure from the start is defiantly a must both
>should at least like the boat if not move on to loving it, some day.
>I love crawling through boat yards checking out the different
>equipment hulls… but not every one likes to do this but both knowing
>what they do AND don't like in a boat is very helpful. I have a
>Hunter cheribini 30/76 and although it wasn't my first "love" it was
>very affordable and needed refitting which helps one learn their boat
>(some times the hard way), Don't laugh but I fell for a Bombay
>clipper 31 sloop. It needed much upgrading and at the asking price,
>wouldn't be within sensible reach. This Hunter is an honest boat and
>will bring me to a higher level of sailing for that move up (some
>day).
>
>2 more cents, Good Luck
>Bess
On the advice of my sister, I took a sailing course (actually 2
courses) without him at the time we bought the boat. And we have
practiced things like retrieving each other (when at anchor), and done
MOB drills, heaving to and other skills. But I'm not really
interested in becoming a diesel mechanic, or waxing the boat or
anything like that. I don't get seasick as a rule, and I like to sail
and anchor and go places on the boat. I have complete confidence in
the boat. And I'm sorry that my husband isn't going to be able to do
all that he would like, but I think it is the more sensible course to
take.
grandma Rosalie
S/V RosalieAnn, Leonardtown, MD
CSY 44 WO #156
http://home.mindspring.com/~gmbeasley/id1.html
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