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From: Rick Bradshaw (no email)
Date: Fri Dec 19 2003 - 15:54:39 EST
Well, I'll depart from the ICW part of the thread and address the
relationship part. Perhaps you might even find (or have found someone
in England while you are gone) before you get back. At any rate, have
a great holiday.
There are many ways to meet someone. At first, it can seem like a
daunting task to meet someone. There a yacht clubs, churches, other
social groups that you belong to. There are crew lists that you can
advertise on as well as personal ads. You can single hand and then
meet someone along the way. You can even meet someone online.
I'll tell you a little story. I met my wife purely by accident. I was
researching some information online for a business report I was
writing one night back in, I think, July 1996. Among the sites that
came up in my search was an unusual one called "match.com." I
checked to see what it was and then bookmarked it to look at later. I
hadn't been divorced from no. 2 (1st not my choice and 2nd was) for
all that long and after 2 bad long term experiences, certainly wasn't
looking for no. 3 in any way shape or form. Thought it was quite
likely that I'd never get married again.
A few days later, I checked out the site. Eventually I signed up for
a while. Met several people online and some in person. The first one
that contacted me and that I responded to ended up being my wife but
not for about 2 years or so and not before both of us meeting others
as well. 7 months of which was purely email and even loosing track of
each other a couple times through email problems. When we first
physically met, I had to drive 120 plus miles each way and didn't
think too much about it. Funny, since I was dating someone else at
the time and only driving 30 miles and was having a problem with that
distance. Didn't even so much as hold her hand that first date. Talk
about being "gun shy." :-)
We were married in 1998, 5 years ago last August. I don't think I
could have gotten a more supportive, understanding, and all around
great person under any circumstance. Yes, we've both changed a "bit"
in these few years and not for the better physically. But, looks, for
both of us, change with time. Things sag and expand for all of us and
not always, naturally, in the preferred places. Hair color can come
out of a bottle as can facial features to some extent and the
physical rest can come by way of the physician's hand. But, the
person inside does often stay the same whether we see it at first or
not, and _that's_ the important thing.
One of the most interesting parts is that I wasn't yet ready to start
dating again when I found that site, but finding it got me to
thinking. _Honestly_ answering the site's questions about me, "warts"
and all, and what I wanted in someone else was also very important.
It helped to crystallize in my mind what had been missing in my life
and what was important to me. There are many such Web sites out
there. Pick one. You never know who you will meet just like in any
social organization you can join and attend in person. There are a
lot of "frogs" out there, M _&_ F versions, but also a lot of gems
too. Just my experience. YMMV.
At 14:20 +0000 12/19/03, rictomich wrote:
>I would appreciate any thoughts on going it alone at my age. How does
>a person find someone to share the ride?
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